“That was so drilled into me by all the outside forces. You have to be seen in the right places, wear the right shoes and drive the right car,'” she noted. “My mindset was, ‘You have to stay thin.
She shared with People that she has since reevaluated her outlook on her appearance. I love all these changes and watching what's happening and getting to know this new person." "I had to get out of Los Angeles to actually age, which I wanted to do," she said. Gilbert, who now lives in Upstate New York with Busfield, also spoke to Good Morning America this week about making the decision to leave Los Angeles behind - and with it, its challenging beauty standards. I’d like to go someplace where that’s possible.” “I have a feeling that I’m going to want to move it more in the future. “I can’t move my forehead - and that’s not okay,” she explained. It wasn’t until she met her now-husband, Thirtysomething actor Tim Busfield, and moved out of Los Angeles to Michigan after their marriage in 2013, that she stopped focusing so much on what she looked like. “And being an actress looking for work in an industry obsessed with youth ratchets that up even further,” she noted.
She added that the experience of “being a single woman in your forties in Los Angeles is a whole different league of pressure.” She wrote, “I reacted as many women I encountered did: I attempted to freeze everything in place.” That reaction, noted the former Screen Actors Guild president, was about attempting to recapture the “freedom” she felt in her youth. “I had Botox, fillers, recolored my hair, and bought a Mustang convertible at the urging of the inappropriately young French dude I began dating,” Gilbert, 58, wrote in the memoir. She shared that following the split, she made physical changes in order to feel better about herself. In her new memoir, Back to the Prairie: A Home Remade, A Life Rediscovered, the Little House on the Prairie star wrote about the end of her marriage to the Babylon 5 actor in 2011. Melissa Gilbert is opening up about the “midlife crisis” she experienced after the end of her marriage to Bruce Boxleitner. It's not like she can't coordinate enough to give me 1/2 hour notice at the very least. I have never shown up at her place without timely notification or time agreement. I don't understand it, isn't this basic etiquette? Am I wrong here? After a certain age, like rooming at college, don't you stop showing up at your friends without planning or notification? I understand exceptions but she does this every time. I asked her if she would give me more time and not just show up with little to no notice in the future. Obviously hinting she should not just show up at my place has not made any impression. A minute later, she's knocking on my door.
I texted her that I needed time as I wasn't expecting visitors. I had slept in, was undressed and flossing my teeth. This morning she texted me again, about a block away. Last night she pulled up in my parking lot and texted me. She's a retiree so I can't blame it on youthful indiscretion. I've tried to set meeting times with her but she will respond, "I'm running errands and taking care of someone's dog" and then she just shows up. She will show up in my parking lot and then text me that she wants to drop off something. We live in the same neighborhood, about a mile apart. Not to hang out with me but for small admin stuff like dropping off a book or keys for example. She has an annoying habit of just showing up at my place. I have a casual friend who also pet sits for me.